We all want our kids to be happy. People who have happy childhoods grow up into fulfilled and respectable adults who find it easier to achieve their goals. So, how exactly do you ensure that your children are having happy lives?
Raising your children to be happy people sounds easy, but in practice, we all know it takes a little more work. That doesn’t mean that it is going to be a huge struggle to try to raise happy kids. In fact, if you read on, you will find out about some great tips that can make it a lot more achievable.
Be A Good Role Model
[This post contains ads] Above all else, you need to be a good role model for your kids. Children, espically in the early years, will mimic what they see. We have seen our son over and over again talk or act exactly as we do. I have even seen him walking around practicing hand motions that looked like it went with someone saying ‘…and-for-another-thing…,’ because he was trying to learn it after he saw a friend doing it.
They will always look up to you, your communication, behavior, attitude and the way you deal with everyday situations will have a huge impact on them. Be the person you are trying to turn your kids into, and you will see them pick up on many more
Every parent needs to talk openly with their children. By communicating regularly with our son, we have already seen that he is willing to be open with us. He is even able to safely express anger and frustration (usually in the form of biting me!), because he knows that we will still love him. Now, obviously, biting results in a few second time out and then I ask him what he was feeling. Even in baby jappers, he gave me a full 5 minute explaination on what I did to upset him… and in our home, that’s okay.
See being able express and communicate honestly and without judgment has several benefits, such as – he knows he can trust us, he tends to stay happier, he is learning respect in listening and being listened to and he is able to express himself. These are the basis of communication as adults, so we need to start teaching them when kids are little.
Encourage Their Faith
As you know, if your family has a certain religion, then it’s a good idea to bring your children up with the same beliefs as well. Research actually shows that children in religious homes are happier than those who do not have it as part of their every day life.
If your kids are still quite young, you could bring them to a church’s Sunday/Sabbath school. Once they are older, you can start taking them to regular church and they will be able to worship here on Sunday with the main congregation. Always be willing and able to answer questions and to let them see the impact that your faith has on your decisions and life.
Make Time To Laugh
Laughter is by far the best medicine for many issues that children might have. It’s important that you laugh together as a family as often as you can. You might want to read a funny bedtime story together (my absolute favorite – “The Wonky Donkey“) before you turn their lights off. Laughter has been shown to release more mood-boosting hormones into the body, so it will give you and your children a natural lift in your moods.
Ask For Help When You Need It
When you try to juggle all of that alongside your full-time work and your household chores, it can all become a bit too much. So, it’s important to ask for help whenever you need it. For instance, you might need to reach out to a close friend or family member to see if they will pick the kids up from school if both you and your partner need to work late one evening.
Cut Down On Screen Time
These days, we all can easily spend hours in front of the TV or on a laptop. However, studies show that screen time has many determintal effects on a child’s development, including causing an increase in depression in children who are given unlimited access. So, it’s understandable why a lot of parents put limits on their kids’ screen time nowadays. If you let your kids have unlimited screen time, they will end up indoors for most of their days when they could be playing outside, meeting with friends, or studying.
However, even in trying to be the best parent you can be, don’t forget that there is no such thing as the perfect parent! You should never compare yourself to other parents or how other people’s children appear to be. Just remember that no one is perfect and everyone struggles at times when they are trying to bring up happy children. Making sure your child always feels loved, happy and safe is really a full time job for any of us. Keep up the good work! Here are some additional resources on Amazon to help you with your parenting –
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